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R.U. Dateable Sends Teens the Wrong Message

By Evan Dolive
Despite what R.U. Dateable says, it’s okay for a girl to ask a boy out.
Despite what R.U. Dateable says, it’s okay for a girl to ask a boy out. Ammentorp Photography
Nov 18, 2013
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A school assembly speaker is gaining national attention. In Richardson, Texas, a high school brought in “motivational speaker and dating expert” Justin Lookadoo to speak to the students about relationships and dating. Lookadoo traverses the country speaking to students about the ins and outs, the perils and pitfalls of dating. Lookadoo gives teens a definitive answer on their status in the realm of dating. His quiz parallels with his “Dateable Rules,” some of which are textbook gender stereotypes and Christian theological distortions.

To be honest, I think his “rules” are bogus. They come from a place where boys and girls are divided into classes and in the end boys win. Making girls out to be “damsels in distress” and boys are “heroic warriors looking for an adventure” doesn't equate a relationship.

Relationships are built upon respect and mutuality not antiquated thinking when it comes to gender roles.

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Despite what R.U. Dateable says, it’s okay for a girl to ask a boy out. Ammentorp Photography
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